Me gustaria compartir con todos vosotros un tema un tanto delicado, relacionado con los hombres y como el titulo dice sus " Fobias" al compromiso.
En estos momentos me encuentro trabajando en un caso relacionado con una chica Australiana a la que estoy ayudando, ella lleva tres meses teniendo dificultades con su chico. Ahora bien, aunque ellos no se encuentran juntos en estos momentos, lo cierto es que ella lo esta pasando mal y ademas le gustaria poder volver con el. Ella es la razon por la cual me gustaria hacer incapie sobre este problema tan serio que los hombres tienen con el compromiso. Ademas de entender la razon por la cual muchos de ellos sienten este panico.
Si indagamos en la niñez
Most men in general have been brought up with a father figure that was either absent or emotionally unavailable. Many young men have the urgent need to feel approved and validated by their fathers - they want to measure up to their father's expectations. When they were not able to fullfil their father's requests, love was then withdraw was a way of punishment. These boys will later on in life, associate emotional distance with love, they will recreate the same type of enviroment where they will withdraw in order to get their way, in order to manipulate the outcome. They will also be afraid of closeness for fear of being rejected again. In the boy's mind love is soemthing that is conditional. Love becomes something that can only be given when the other person works for it, when the other person deserves it, according to his standards.
Deep down, what he is really looking for, is his fathers validation. Once he finally gets the approval heneeds from his father, he will be open to love without restrictions. Then commitment won't be such a big deal for him. Getting close to someone will not necessarily mean weakness or the loss of his independency. He will not need to have to prove his masculinity with thousands of women, he will know within himself that it is ok to be vulnerable with one woman without losing his identity. He will learn that love means closeness.
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